Monday, September 6, 2010

Labor Day Memories - Pappaw and Mammaw Layne

September 6, 2010


Labor Day, the first Monday in September, is a creation of the labor movement and is dedicated to the social and economic achievements of American workers. It constitutes a yearly national tribute to the contributions workers have made to the strength, prosperity, and well-being of our country.

Traditionally, Labor Day is celebrated by most Americans as the symbolic end of the summer. The holiday is often regarded as a day of rest and parties. Forms of celebration include picnics, barbecues, fireworks displays, water sports, and public art events. Families with school-age children take it as the last chance to travel before the end of summer recess. Similarly, some teenagers and young adults view it as the last weekend for parties before returning to school, although school starting times now vary. I guess this no longer applies as most school systems now start in August!

Dad always had Labor Day off, so we would head to Mammaw and Pappaw’s. Pappaw had the horse hooked up to the plow; Dad had stopped at the basket store and bought a bunch of bushel baskets; and Mammaw had already started cooking the noon meal. Labor Day meant we were really going to labor!

My Grandfather would go through the rows one by one, and those potatoes started turning out of the ground!! Wow! There seemed to be thousands of them! We had to let the sun dry them off a little bit, and while that happened; we placed the bushel baskets throughout the rows of potatoes. Then it was time for the four Layne kids to get to work. We picked the potatoes up and put them in the baskets. Pappaw wanted the largest potatoes picked up first. Then the smaller ones were placed in a different basket. We knew what we had to do, and we would go as fast as we could - the faster we went - the sooner the job would get completed, and then off to the hills to play we would go! :)

The only picture I could find was this one of my Uncle Pak using his pony to plow the garden. It actually looks like he is smoothing the ground before plowing the rows. I have many memories of the horses, mules, and ponies being used in the field. I would use the Gravely to plow, but not the horse!!!
Uncle Pete and Uncle Pak, Dad’s brothers, did a lot of the plowing since they were using their horse or mule. Pappaw, who was in his 80’s, still wanted to do the work. So, Dad and my uncles would “let” him do some of it. Then when we had the potatoes in the baskets, they hooked the horse up to the sleigh. Dad usually had charge of this. He would maneuver the sleigh through the garden and we would place the baskets on it and off to the crib he would go. Then we got to help carry the baskets into the crib. Pappaw would take the baskets and dump the potatoes out! The purpose was to let them dry out so he wouldn’t get any rotten ones in the batch.

The following picture is what the "boys" would do after helping Pappaw do some work . . . or on a Sunday afternoon visit. The lower part of the house was shaded by a big willow tree - the coolest place to be. Mammaw and Pappaw did bot have AC!!! Starting from the left: Uncle Pete, Dad holding Mike, Uncle Son, and Uncle Pete - all great examples of hard workers!!!!



Once all the potatoes were in the crib, we got a special treat. Dad would get us all on the sleigh and take us a ride. We were no longer tired! We were having a blast!!!! Labor Day always seemed to be hot, but the love that was floating around that garden made for good memories. We would leave the potato patch and head in to a great meal of fresh green beans, fried ‘taters, corn, fried chicken, and corn bread. Oh, and there was always some sort of homemade desert! Mammaw cooked on a wood burning stove, and oh the food was “oh so good!”

After the meal was over, the men (my brothers included) went out to the front porch to rest. ME???? Well I got to help clean up the kitchen and do the dishes!!!! The privilege of being the only daughter!

The next two pictures are of Mammaw and Pappaw when they were a little younger!! Notice the fence behind Mammaw - yes, my grandfather made the fence. There is a garden on the other side of it. It was only one of many spots where Pappaw gardened!



This is a picture of Pappaw after a long day of working in the garden. He would wear his "bibs" on those days!

Pappaw and Mammaw later on through the years. Mammaw cooked three big meals a day, and Pappaw always supplied the wood for her wood burning stove! Every evening it was chopping the wood and carrying in enough for the next day!

Mammaw and Pappaw with their seven children. All were hard workers and loved their family very much. Sadly, all who are pictured in this photo are no longer with us, but they are together in Heaven above. I miss each and everyone of them!!! Left to right: Uncle Pak (Palmer), Aunt Hammie (Thelma), Pappaw, and Mammaw in the front row; Uncle Pete (Eskow), Dad Elmer/Buck), Aunt Oma, Uncle Son (Aubry), and Aunt Dean (Faye). This was taken at one of the reunions held on Pappaw''s birthday!


I would not change those weekends for anything. We did things together as a family, and we had a great time doing them. It was hard work, but it was work we did because we loved our grandparents more than anything. We weren't forced to do the work - we did it because that's how we were raised - you help family! We may have been tired at the end of the day, but what sweet memories they are now!

Friday, September 3, 2010

A Mother's Love Never Fades - It Gets Stronger

Friday - September 3, 2010

63 years ago, there was a mother holding her first born in her arms and showering him with kisses. Today that mother gave her first born a kiss. My mother, who is 90 years old, went to visit her first born, Dink, a.k.a, William Allen Layne. She wanted to wish him a Happy Birthday - even if it was a day late! (She had minor surgery on her hand and was a little under the weather on her "baby's" birthday!!!

Whether you are a newborn, or in you 60's, your mother will always think of that first time she saw you. The love only gets stronger!!! Since Dink's stroke almost 18 months ago, she has become a little more protective of her first born. She wants him to always know how much she loves him. She loves her other children just as much, but we love to tease her and say she loves Dink more because he is the oldest. Bless his heart, Dink still has his sense of humor and says that it is true!!!

Dink did not want me to take a picture until I asked if he would allow me to take one with him and Mom together!!! He agreed and here are a couple of good shots!!!! One with his sneaky grin, and the other with Mom bending over him and giving him a kiss in the head!!! Precious moment - Precious memories!!!!!

Love you all!!!!!!!




Sunday, August 29, 2010

A Bridge Called Love

Sunday - August 29, 2010


There are so many who have gone from us that I miss so much. It began when I lost my grandparents, and then my aunts, uncles, and cousins. When coming from a large family, it seems that the older we get, we attend more funerals. It is a bitter sweet time. Bitter in that they are no longer with us, sweet in that they are now with their heavenly family. They are missed everyday.

There is not a day that goes by that I don't miss Dad and John. I laugh about many fond memories, and I cry because they aren't here to share the good times. I loved them so much and miss them even more!

I found the following poem when browsing through my sites for inspiration. This particular site was for pets. There are many poems, verses, saying, that express our grief and the many emotions we are experiencing since Toby passed away - four weeks ago today. It helps to know we aren't the only ones who have had these feelings. There are still many who think we are being silly. He was a member of our family for over 14 years - he was our family!

The picture of the bridge is a painting that I envision being "A Bridge of Love." The beauty surrounding the bridge is what I feel it might be like if we were to cross the "bridge of love" and remember all our loved ones - pets included!


A Bridge Called Love

It takes us back to brighter years,
to happier sunlit days
and to precious moments
that will be with us always.
And these fond recollections
are treasured in the heart
to bring us always close to those
from whom we had to part.

There is a bridge of memories
from earth to Heaven above...
It keeps our dear ones near us
It's the bridge that we call love.

Author Unknown



Dad - I love you!

John - I love You!

. . . and Toby we love you, your Daddy and I miss you so much! We hope you have crossed that bridge and found Pappaw and John - they both loved you too!

Friday, August 27, 2010

Jamie - Another Year

Friday - August 27, 2010

It's time!!!! Jamie, it's your time to be the subject of the blog! :) I have written a blog about all in the family in one capacity or another. Some, of course, have gotten more space, only because I know more about them! :):) Today you are a year older Jamie, and we want to wish you a very Happy Birthday!!!!!! You are loved because you are the love of someone very special to us! You are also loved because of who you are - a caring and loving person. Billy use to come home and talk about this really nice girl he had met at work!!! Hmmmm - the way he was talking was telling me it was someone who was going to become very special to him. Then as the days went by, you became that special person to him as well as becoming someone special to us.

The help and attention you give Mammaw comes from your heart and is greatly appreciated. The special attention you have given Dink to help with his arm and back also comes from your heart. I know that you are truly loved by not just Billy, but the rest of us too. I loved the Friday night chats and crocheting lessons. I hope you have a wonderful birthday, and that you know how much you are loved!

Here's our birthday girl - Jamie Smith!


The engaged couple - Billy Layne and Jamie

Jamie and Billy were both a part of Mom's Rosie the Riveter luncheon in Charleston.

Billy and Jamie in attendance at Todd and Cassie's wedding - 2009

Happy Birthday Jamie!!! We love you!!!!

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

I Believe . . . and Here's One Reason Why

Tuesday - August 24, 2010

I believe! Do you????? I believe in the power of prayer, and that God is always in control. Sometimes we pray for "what we want," but sometimes that doesn't mean it will happen. There were so many times I prayed to God to help my Dad and make him well. Dad was at death's door many times, and we all prayed, as did many people who did not know him. He was on the prayer list of many churches in the area, as well as individuals. Several times the doctors did not encourage us as to the progress of Dad's recovery. It was those same doctors who said that Dad's recovery was a miracle. Yes, it was. Dad was the first to say he was still with us because it was God's will. We prayed for Dad that last week he was with us, and it was God's will that Dad was to go home. He knew it was time; we knew it was time; but it was still hard not to pray again for him to get better.

It is so hard to see loved ones fighting for life, and we always pray that they will recover. 18 months ago, the family was praying for the recovery of another loved one - my oldest brother Dink. Dink believes that God is truly in control, and will tell you he has been at death's door many times. But, he says he was told it was not his time to leave this world, and that God still had a plan for him here. Dink is recovering from a severe stroke which left him with his right side paralyzed and his speech affected. However, he has come a long way in his recovery. Is he back to 100% as he was before the stroke - no, but he is able to do many things through shear determination and hard work. He has the love of his life, Rhonda, and his two sons, Billy and Bobby, who are there to help him. He also has the love and prayers from his mother, brother, and sister, as well as the rest of the family which includes nieces, nephews, cousins, and friends.

When I see where Dink was, and where he is today, I thank God! He has the sneakiest grin, and still has that sense of humor!! He loves his family very much, and gives thanks to God for what he has! He may not be able to communicate as well as he use to, but we are able to figure out what he is saying! I believe in miracles and in the power of prayer, because without them, I would not have my big brother here to give me a hard time. Even though he loves to tease me, I know he loves me as much as I love him. When Toby died, he came out to the house with Bobby to make sure I was okay!!! He knew how much Toby meant to Bill and me. I love my big brother very much and am so proud of the progress he has made. He is and always will be in my prayers.



Dink, I love you more than I can say and am so very proud of how hard you are working. The entire family is proud of you. You are an inspiration to us all. You are so much like Dad - you may be knocked down, but you do all you can to get back up!!!! You know the power of prayer, and you believe too!!! You are a hero to so many! We all love you!!!!!

Dink and Rhonda - 2006


Dink's first visit with Mom after his stroke!


On that same visit, Todd helped him use the computer! He has adjusted to many things using his left hand!


Rhonda brought Dink to Todd and Cassie's rehearsal gathering - May, 2009

He enjoyed watching Meghan helping Mom play 'Deal or No Deal!



A happy smile with the bride, Cassie!

Dink came to Cora's dedication picnic - here he is talking with David and Jeni. He has always loved David! He wanted to be part of this special day!!!

Talking with Rhonda, after eating and enjoying time with Mom!


Christmas, 2009. Bill ordered us all sweatshirts from our high school - Dink showing off his Pony Express Pride with the year he graduated!

February 27, 2010 - the surprise gathering for Mom's 90th birthday! Dink had a great time visiting with the many family and friends who attended!!!

The next time you feel low and sad, think about Dink, or someone else who has overcome obstacles that have changed their life. Be thankful for your health, family, and friends and remember that God is always with us, and if we believe in Him, then we know He is the One we need to thank and praise for all we have!